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I was at Crepevine a few days ago with my 3-year-old daughter and 7-year-old niece, eating chocolate-strawberry crepes and trying to explain the extinct sport of rollerskating. I figured we’d hit the park after stuffing ourselves with mounds of chocolate, ice cream and crepes, but both girls, when asked what they wanted to do next, said, “The library!”
“Are you sure?” I asked. The answer was a resounding “Yes!”
They both scurried from their seats and raced ahead of me, straight to the lion-flanked front steps of the . I didn’t expect the trip to last too long, convinced the sugar rush would result in someone using the kids' section couch as a trampoline and another little someone using the puppets as missiles, resulting in comments along the lines of, “Uh, ma’am, while we enjoy children at the library, we don’t enjoy these ones.”
(And if you think a librarian would never say this, think again. It happened to me when I brought my 1-year-old niece to the library. She was so excited to see so many books that she erupted into the loudest screams you’ve ever heard. The librarian said, “My, my, we have a vocal child. This is a library you know.” We went to the park instead.)
Things went better this time, and the girls picked out their books quickly: My niece a neat little book about a zany second-grader and my daughter one about fairies. We all snuggled together on the couch and I began to read my niece’s pick out loud.
To say they were enchanted would be an understatement. They were mesmerized, transfixed, unfalteringly hanging on every detail of the girl’s life. Five minutes ticked by, then 10 and then 30. Curled into the couch with the two girls that day brought back memories of my own childhood literary escapades. It also reminded me that lately I hadn’t been doing much of the thing that I list as my No. 1 hobby.
My dad is a writer, and his own fascination with literature resulted in children with hungry appetites for books and a love of storytelling. As a child I holed up in my room or at the and read for hours on end. Sometimes, I’d come out of a reading session bleary-eyed, stuffy-headed and blinking, just like walking out of a movie theater in the middle of the day.
I kept a diary of every book I read, just like my dad. In college, I read a novel a week. Post-college, I read three to four newspapers a day and, on average, a book a month, in addition to the New Yorker. Those were the days when I had time – you know, B.C. (before children).
Since my daughter was born, my brain has been sucked dry. By the end of a day of negotiating to get my 3-year-old to wear pants and a jacket in 30-degree weather instead of a sundress and sandals, I’m exhausted. These days my book list includes titles such as “The Costume Copycat” and “The Big Red Barn.”
But that recent day in the library, reading to the kids, I became inspired. Especially when my niece hopped off the couch and grabbed the sixth book in the Harry Potter series. Do you know how long that is? It’s more than 800 pages.
“You’ve read the prior five?” I said.
“Yes,” she said. (She’s been so obsessed that apparently she hides in the library during recess to read them.)
I’m embarrassed to say I haven’t read anything that long since my dad convinced me to read “One Hundred Years of Solitude.” I was mightily impressed by my niece.
That night I went home to find an e-mail in my inbox from my child’s school announcing that Read Across America Day is March 2. I thought, it’s time I start reading again.
It's true that my first hint should have been several months earlier, when my daughter picked out a book at called “Too Much TV.” I said to her, “What a good book. Lucky you don’t watch much TV.” She said, “Mommy, it’s for you."
OK, it's true that I have allowed myself to get sucked into the lower echelon of television at night: “Real Housewives of Beverly Hills,” “The Biggest Loser” and my lowest of lows, “Bridalplasty.” (I can’t believe I just admitted that.)
So, this week, I picked up “A Fine Balance,” a 500-plus-word book that I intend to finish … at some point. Hopefully it will help me recreate those days of bleary-eyed read-a-thons from yesteryear.
But most likely it will result in a letter from my daughter’s school saying a skirt and short-sleeved shirt are not appropriate winter attire.